Sunday, February 14, 2010

42, single and pregnant - It's a whole new world

This is the conclusion of my 3-part series about Sheri. Scroll down or click here to read part 1 and here for part 2.

Sheri's 2 & 1/2 year journey to get pregnant through fertility treatments was physically and emotionally challenging, but now that she's through her first trimester, all that pain is forgotten.

"As devastating as it was," she said, "once you're pregnant, you forget all about it. I appreciate the challenge of trying to get pregnant. It has been a life altering experience."

Going into the fertility process, Sheri says she was a controlling person. She always believed that if she were disciplined and worked hard enough, she would achieve her goals. While those traits served her well as an athlete and in her career, they had nothing to do with having a baby.

"I couldn't control this." Sheri said. "I had to learn to let go and face my fears to get pregnant. This process has opened me up."

Bucking the traditional family structure has been liberating to Sheri as well. "People would say to me - 'but you're cute, you could find a guy.' It's not about marriage to me anymore. It's about raising a child."

Through all the genetic testing, Sheri knows her baby is a boy. She also knows her journey has just begun.

"I'm still working on me." she said. "I focused all my energy on getting pregnant. Now I can come to who I am more authentically." She smiled and looked down at her stomach. "He (the baby) is a catalyst to moving me to who I am."

Sheri is confident she has the resources to take care of her child. She has already figured out her child care, work schedule, and budget. She'll stay in her two bedroom condo and live within her means.

"My first priority is to be a good mother," she said.

Sheri admits she does get lonely sometimes. "I want love," she said. "But it has to be right and I'm not going to settle."

In the meantime, Sheri is thrilled with her pregnancy and says she is living life in happiness and joy.

"This has been one of the most empowering things I've ever done."

1 comment:

Leecee said...

Wow! Kudos to her and all that she went throught to get pregnant. I wish her the best!