tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post550803216034422837..comments2024-03-28T03:25:10.175-05:00Comments on Forty Fabulous: Late Life Lesbians. Let's Discuss.Marjie Killeenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05720944021171910758noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-64895818708646974372017-04-25T18:15:55.914-05:002017-04-25T18:15:55.914-05:00Respect you, but you will never know the struggle....Respect you, but you will never know the struggle. Was not always as easy. Am I bitter, maybe, but you don't know the storyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-23822535508361154832016-09-05T15:36:03.098-05:002016-09-05T15:36:03.098-05:00I've reached my 30s and have started to questi...I've reached my 30s and have started to question whether I fall into this category. I never wanted children and have struggled to find any men that I found attactive enough to date. I enjoy the company of men, but can only think of a handful that I have seen (on TV or elsewhere) and thought were in any way 'good looking' and I never fantasise about having sex with them. Typically masculine 'traits' such as beards and big muscles are a huge turn off and the handful of men that I consider attractive have quite feminine features and elegant mannerisms/voices. <br /><br />In contrast I find several women very attractive - both 'butch' and 'femme' in appearance, and can always find at least one beautiful woman when I leave the house. I've always put this down to a low sex drive or some sort of over-exposure to feminine looking men at a young age. But I am starting to wonder if I'm actually just attracted more to women in reality. Especially women with 'male' personalities. I grew up in a religious family, where same-sex relationships were viewed as either immoral or something socially acceptable that only other people did. The topic was mostly avoided altogether. So it isn't something I've given much thought to until now. I'm still very much exploring this, but I may end up coming out as one of the late-in-life-lesbians in future!Maria_GFnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-9888333407368549952016-05-15T21:24:35.888-05:002016-05-15T21:24:35.888-05:00Wow! That seems pretty cold...you get the leftove...Wow! That seems pretty cold...you get the leftovers.<br />I would think "later in life" would draw woman together because they can see such worth beyond the beauty of youth that so many others only value them for.<br />But, male or female...it seems the body parts aren't what make us so different after all.<br />Some only value the superficial.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-53631316972551801372016-05-15T21:22:14.105-05:002016-05-15T21:22:14.105-05:00Wow! That seems pretty cold...you get the leftove...Wow! That seems pretty cold...you get the leftovers.<br />I would think "later in life" would draw woman together because the can see such worth beyond the beauty of youth that so many others only value them for.<br />But, male or female...it seems the body parts aren't what make us so different after all.<br />Some only value the superficial.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-84069673377578627162016-01-27T04:06:15.474-06:002016-01-27T04:06:15.474-06:00Later in life "lesbians" are just bisexu...Later in life "lesbians" are just bisexuals that give their youth and beauty to men. When they start to age they turn to lesbians and we get the left overs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-67329409973130727772015-05-28T17:21:41.661-05:002015-05-28T17:21:41.661-05:00When GOD was experimenting with natural birth cont...When GOD was experimenting with natural birth control and maybe the best of the best...maybe those memories are still there in those chromosome/genes...?<br />Maybe the soul is for real as after lifes and before lives...?<br />Maybe?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-29607937316217922812014-11-15T15:47:30.219-06:002014-11-15T15:47:30.219-06:00No one was more surprised that I was when I fell i...No one was more surprised that I was when I fell in love with a woman half my age two years ago. I've been with my husband nearly 25 years. He knows about her and is still with me, but the three of us truly struggle. I watch others blow up their families and I just don't want to do that...and yet, married with a girlfriend who wants more from me is hurting us both.<br />Thank you for your post and the wonderful comments. I don't feel so alone reading them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-12160910630395030022014-05-17T18:18:50.868-05:002014-05-17T18:18:50.868-05:00Not sure about the cheating but I am pretty sure t...Not sure about the cheating but I am pretty sure that once the bio imperative has gone, we are free to explore beyond previous limits. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-43961114660012078582014-04-07T16:41:02.492-05:002014-04-07T16:41:02.492-05:00I am 39 years old. I have been with my husband for...I am 39 years old. I have been with my husband for about 19 years and in recent years found myself attracted and wondering about women. I told my husband about this and we experimented with swinging. That didn't work out as I expected it too and we do not involve ourselves in that lifestyle anymore. However, my feelings never subsided. I told my husband I wanted a girlfriend to which he responded in the typical way, saying he would want to watch. I didn't want that. I wanted private time to explore myself and my sexuality. Looking back on my life, it dawned on me that I have always been attracted to women, I just didn't understand what was happening and didn't really think of it as an option. About 6 months ago I met a married woman who was looking for the same thing I was. We hit it off immediately and on our 3rd date we had an awesome sexual experience. It was like nothing I had ever experienced before. It felt like I was finally awake. We are still seeing each other. I do feel guilty about keeping her a secret from my husband. I have no desire to break up my marriage, I just want to be happy with her in the here and now, and to enjoy her when I can. The intensity builds so much looking forward to seeing her, it makes for the most amazing sexual experiences. I would have never thought of myself as the cheating type and I never was before this. It feels like I can't stop myself if I wanted to. Feel free to comment with advice or support, not judgement or criticism. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-63668266389982098012014-03-16T17:58:51.061-05:002014-03-16T17:58:51.061-05:00I'm in my early 50s and for the first time am ...I'm in my early 50s and for the first time am WILDLY attracted to a woman. <br /><br />Its certainly not because I can't attract men (I still do, unfortunately) and she definitely can its just that I find her hot. Nothing has happened between us yet, but I hope it does. I don't know for certain that she feels the same way, but I suspect she does. She's an amazing woman.. .I could definitely see being with her. <br /><br />I had experienced attraction to women through the years, but would never admit this to myself. <br /><br />Interestingly, I had a feeling from the beginning that she was somehow attracted to me. <br /><br />I think about her CONSTANTLY and it feels so good. I'm not afraid of her like I am of many men, I dont feel like I have to walk on pins and needles with her and I can be myself completely. Its the most amazing feeling. This is how it should be. :)Melanie https://www.blogger.com/profile/13261035384069567463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-83789085711034257712013-11-12T23:03:44.895-06:002013-11-12T23:03:44.895-06:00I am forty nine years old always new I was a lesbi...I am forty nine years old always new I was a lesbian since I was able to know before that I just felt different.I married my husband for 20 yrs and had two kids.I always told him I was gay he never believed I just thought I was confused.I eventually just did what was expected of me and lived strait.Last year I met my partner fell in love and we have been together for a year .I am finally happy not suicidal or battling eating disorders of anorexia or Bulimia.I am happy.My kids father died two months ago at 46yrs old of a heart attack.Brian (kids' father) said before he died I can see you are happy I can see the peace and glow about you.My kids except me and my partner.We are the modern family . Thanks GIGIAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-75289798535744247802013-11-10T20:04:08.097-06:002013-11-10T20:04:08.097-06:00I just got done reading your article, and really e...I just got done reading your article, and really enjoyed it, thank you. You can see some fun books at www.fun2readbooks.com where you can also hear the girls read the stories for the same price as a paperback book, but they are reading exotic sexy stories that will get you going!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13889908734171341284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-38844622216634516802013-09-19T13:27:22.982-05:002013-09-19T13:27:22.982-05:00Great read! I am in the same "pickle". ...Great read! I am in the same "pickle". I have found myself so undeniable attracted to women... I just don't know how to go about meeting them... or communicating with women on that level... or even where to meet other women. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-11559015396311560182013-08-01T20:25:23.554-05:002013-08-01T20:25:23.554-05:00I am an unhappy married woman who would love to fi...I am an unhappy married woman who would love to find a woman to share my life with. I started noticing and finding other women attractive after I got in my 40's. I have never had any opportunities to be with a woman but would like to. Any suggestions to go about finding someone would help.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-73542100180607296402013-02-26T14:35:16.523-06:002013-02-26T14:35:16.523-06:00Anonymous -
You could consider talking with a ther...Anonymous -<br />You could consider talking with a therapist who specializes in LGBT issues to help you sort it through. Also, my recent piece on Polyamory might be of interest, because it presents people living in unconventional situations that seem to work for them.<br /><br />http://www.makeitbetter.net/better-you/sex-and-the-suburbs/4977-polyamory-no-limits-to-loveMarjie Killeenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05720944021171910758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-17188214187434813932013-02-25T09:20:34.223-06:002013-02-25T09:20:34.223-06:00Hi I'm a married woman in my fourties with thr...Hi I'm a married woman in my fourties with three children still staying with hubby and kids I'm strongly in love with a woman how do I tell my hubby that I'm in love with a womanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-66750230049975969192013-02-25T08:57:03.512-06:002013-02-25T08:57:03.512-06:00I like what is beeing said by woman who fell in lo...I like what is beeing said by woman who fell in love with another woman thumbs upAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-10240949659756227802013-01-09T13:03:48.113-06:002013-01-09T13:03:48.113-06:00Applause to all of our friends out there who value...Applause to all of our friends out there who value their happiness by not keeping their true identity; instead proudly express their love for the same sex. A <a href="http://www.datingopinions.org/dating-reviews-of-gay-cupid-com.html" rel="nofollow">gaycupid</a> member once said that acceptance is the most special gift you can give them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-65682487079960886672012-12-03T08:44:51.457-06:002012-12-03T08:44:51.457-06:00I am a later in life lesbian. When I was younger,...I am a later in life lesbian. When I was younger, I had experienced occasional attraction to very masculine women (butches). But I told myself that I was only attracted them because they looked and acted like men. Which was true, but not the whole story. I met this one butch professionally and was just incredibly attracted, but never did anything about it - still, it shook me up because the attraction was so strong. At the age of 48, I realized that I was attracted to butch women as women, in their own right, and very powerfully so. I found myself joining an online lesbian dating site and met a wonderful butch. We are in love and planning to get married (luckily we can in my state). I never in a million years dreamed this would happen to me, but there it is, and this is a better relationship than I have ever had with a man. It is HARD to come out late in life, but I did, and now am open with everybody. I also think that as your fertility declines, there is a biological component - you no longer feel a need to be with a man to procreate (this may be subconscious, but I do think it's a factor for many later-in-life women). Allow yourself to feel what you feel, and to be what you are, even if it is a change from the way you used to be for many years. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14281276202168316271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-8429758214811520702012-11-18T15:26:51.467-06:002012-11-18T15:26:51.467-06:00Married 20 years in an emotionally abusive relatio...Married 20 years in an emotionally abusive relationship,thought that was why i didnt enjoy the sex. Seperated and met younger women also in emotionally abusive relationship. Have fallen in love with her,dont know if i will ever have same feelings for another women or only her.She is now in another abusive relationship with a man, sure it is because she cant accept her true feelings, I am too scared to tell her how i feel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-19830730448990221032012-11-06T09:59:05.908-06:002012-11-06T09:59:05.908-06:00Michelle, wow! I'm sure this is a tumultuous t...Michelle, wow! I'm sure this is a tumultuous time for you, but I like that middle age can be as full of discovery and surprise as any other age. I wish you much happiness.Marjie Killeenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05720944021171910758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-20524810582833943372012-10-24T21:16:25.678-05:002012-10-24T21:16:25.678-05:00Amen to that! I just fell head over heels for a wo...Amen to that! I just fell head over heels for a woman at age 45. It was just as much of a surprise to me as everyone else.....including my children (married for 13 years and currently in divorce proceecings). However, I simply could not deny the fact that I loved this woman and wanted/needed to be with her. The connection I felt immediately was like no other I had ever experienced. I cannot explain it and won't.....it simply is......She is the only woman I am attracted to this way and the only woman I want to be with. I simply adore her.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14864205568067092733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-65009556409071784082011-12-08T17:37:31.727-06:002011-12-08T17:37:31.727-06:00actually christopher if you really thought it was ...actually christopher if you really thought it was hogwash--as you put it;why are you visiting?<br />its an emotional connection that a man just cant connect to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-29446200511199794102011-12-08T17:13:09.392-06:002011-12-08T17:13:09.392-06:00oh my,
interesting....i thought i was the only one...oh my,<br />interesting....i thought i was the only one who felt an emotional connection to another female in mid life .....i was married twice and did have children,but this is a connection i never experienced with a man ."she reads my thoughts ,puts me first and will never say no ,even a silly simple request-the answer is always yes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5426686110229877216.post-65731089219938856282011-10-04T09:08:13.442-05:002011-10-04T09:08:13.442-05:00Christopher - I appreciate you reading this and e...Christopher - I appreciate you reading this and encourage you to keep exploring the topic with an open mind. Whatever role biology plays in being gay - which is still undetermined, and seems more complex for women than men - it is not fair to compare it to a congenital disorder. This is a difference, not a disease.Marjie Killeenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05720944021171910758noreply@blogger.com